As you learned in a previous lesson, there are five different conflict styles. This lesson will discuss one of these styles, and how it presents itself in various situations.
The areas of focus include:
Compromising is a conflict resolution style in which parties agree to sacrifice some of their needs in exchange for having others met.
As a style, compromising is:
If you remember, cooperativeness is a behavior in which two parties work together to achieve their goals; assertiveness is a behavior in which a party confidently makes a statement without need of proof, affirming his or her rights without attacking another’s.
Thus the nature of compromising positions it at the middle level of both these behaviors.
With regards to politics, there is hope for compromise so that legislation can be passed. However, with Republicans on one side, and Democrats on the other, both feel strongly about their particular positions.
Many times, they might come to a stalemate, as we’ve seen happen in Congress. When they can reach a compromise, perhaps on taxes and spending, they can pass some legislation. A compromise might be that one side gives a little bit on taxes, and the other gives a little bit on spending.
You and your spouse are having a disagreement about whether to spend the holidays with your side of the family, or with your spouse’s side of the family. It seems like you always see your spouse’s side of the family, but never your side of the family. Both involve travel, so you compromise.
You decide that every other year you'll spend Thanksgiving with your spouse’s family, and vice versa. You give up a little bit of the holidays on your side, and your spouse does the same on his/her side. You’ll alternate in order to divide things equally.
This particular style of conflict has, as all styles do, both positive and negative outcomes.
A positive outcome is a resolution to a conflict that a party perceives as meeting his or her needs and/or reducing the likelihood of further conflict.
A negative outcome is a resolution that the party perceives as not meeting his or her needs and/or increasing the likelihood of further conflict.
Let's go back to the Congress scenario.
Return to the holiday travel scenario.
It’s important to remember that while compromising might be the style that you tend towards and feel most comfortable with (your preferred style), that doesn't mean it's the only way that you can respond in a conflict.
There are other conflict styles, and you, as well as anyone, can respond in any number of ways to a particular conflict.
In this lesson, you learned about compromising as a style of conflict, and what the positive and negative outcomes of using this style can be.
You now understand that even though compromising may be your preferred style, you always have the ability to respond to conflict in a different way.
Source: Adapted from Sophia tutorial by Marlene Johnson.
Behavior in which a person confidently makes a statement without need of proof, affirming his/her rights without attacking another's.
A conflict resolution style in which parties agree to sacrifice some of their needs in exchange for having others met.
Behavior in which two parties work in concert to achieve their mutual and respective individual goals.
Resolutions to a conflict that a party perceives as meeting his/her needs and/or reducing likelihood of further conflict (positive) or not meeting his/her needs and/or increasing likelihood of further conflict(negative).