Hi I'm Julie Tietz and welcome to Conflict Resolution, Putting the Pieces Together. Today, we're going to cover the core concern of affiliation. So why don't we get started off with our key terms. Core concern-- per the Harvard Negotiation project, is one of five emotional or relational needs all humans feel within relationships or in negotiation.
So the Harvard Negotiation project works on real conflicts to better understand and implement conflict resolution and negotiation practices. And it's based out of Harvard University. And so all of the items that we're discussing about the core concerns come from real-world experiences.
Affiliation-- a perception that one is emotionally connected to others. So looking at the core concerns in relationship to Maslow's hierarchy of needs, we see that they're located specifically in the loving, and belonging, and esteem categories of the hierarchy of needs. Affiliation is specifically in the love and relationship or the love and belonging level of Maslow's hierarchy of needs.
And in order for our affiliation need to be satisfied, we must have connected relationships. And these should be non-adversarial. So they are cordial, they are nice, they're not your arch enemy. And we must be able to feel that we are connecting with this relationship through shared interests or concerns.
So let's look at some areas and ask yourself, where do you need affiliation in your life? For me, I need that at home. So when I'm at home, I like to feel that I'm connected with people that I live with, connected with the space, connected with the neighborhood. So I'm feeling like I am affiliated and belong with the elements of my home.
Also, I need to feel affiliation in my job. I need to feel like I am working towards a purpose that is shared with other people within my workspace. Also, I need to feel that in groups-- same as on the job-- I need to feel that if I'm going to be a member of a group, I am working towards or sharing some vested interests with the people or have a specific concern that I may be working towards in this group.
Also, in relationships, I think this is a really big thing. We need to feel that we belong within our specific relationships, whether that's with a partner, or in our family, or in a friendship group. So when there is a lack or perceived lack of affiliation, this can lead to a conflict.
So let's go and see how that would look in some of these examples here. Let's say I am on the job, and I am asked to go to happy hours. And I want somebody else to come along, my desk partner, lets say. I have to share an office with somebody. And they may not feel like they want to come along. And I might not-- I may feel a little upset about this. But because we have certain levels of demonstrations of affiliations that we need in our life, with my co-worker, I may not need such a big level of affiliation as to do after-work activities. So I may not feel that I need that as much.
But if I am in a friendship group and I am not being included in a specific event or an outing, I may feel that my need is being unmet. And I may have a conflict with my friends because I need a bigger level of demonstration of belonging with them, versus, maybe, not so much with my co-workers.
And when we're discussing affiliation and conflict resolution, it's important to know that we must have affiliation present in the conflict resolution process. And we need the members of the process to feel like they are part of a team working towards a problem or a goal to solve. And through this process, through this affiliation, we are building more constructive relationships. And in the process of conflict resolution, affiliation of parties would maybe look like working together and solving the problem versus being adversaries. Or working towards or finding shared interests, which can relieve tension and possibly solve the conflict.
So now that we've gone over the core concern of affiliation, let's go over some of our key points. The core concern of affiliation is located specifically in the love and relationship or the love and belonging level of Maslow's hierarchy of needs. And for our needs to be satisfied here with affiliation, we must feel that we have connected relationships with others.
And when there is a lack of affiliation, a lack of connection with others, this can create a conflict. And in order to restore or work on a conflict, we must have affiliation present for an effective conflict resolution process. So we must have parties feel like they are part of a team and they're working together to solve the problem at hand.
Thank you for taking the time out to view this tutorial on core concern of affiliation. I hope to catch you again next time.