Communication is the process of moving information from person to person using symbolic codes. As you learned previously, these codes are usually words that have put been put together using letters, or symbols, to create information.
This information then becomes a message, or a packet of information which has been encoded and is moving from sender to receiver.
While the communication process sounds simple, there is a lot of room for misinterpretation.
This is caused by filters, of which there are two types:
Whatever is getting in the way of this message is not internal because the receiver is not thinking it in their mind. Rather, this is an outside force which we can refer to as “static.”
EXAMPLE
You call your friend on the phone. She picks up her phone, but she can’t hear you because there’s static on the line. You move around, continually asking if she can hear you better. We've all had that experience, probably on a cell phone.However, we don’t need technology to encounter external filters.
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You could be in a restaurant, and your dinner partner can't hear you because it's very noisy. Or you’re outside, and there is a wind blowing, so you can't hear one another. That noise is an external force that’s getting in the way.EXAMPLE
Sometimes the external force can be caused by something else the receiver is doing. Your friend is talking to you, but she’s cooking dinner at the same time. Or she’s answering what her kids are asking her, or maybe checking her email. Those kinds of activities take the receiver’s attention away from the conversation or the message that the sender is trying to communicate.If you're not sure that someone is going to be getting your message because of certain external filters, it's best to think of sending the message a different way.
EXAMPLE
You might leave a voicemail and send an email so that you know the person will receive the message in two different places. Or you might text somebody and say, “Check your email,” or “When you have a moment, listen to the voicemail I left you.” The text is just a short little message letting the person know that there's something that you want to communicate.Sending messages through a variety of different mediums can sometimes be a way to avoid the external static that can happen during the communication process.
In other words, this type of filter is something related to how the receiver is understanding or interpreting the message that the sender is trying to communicate.
There could be a misunderstanding of a particular word or phrase, either in context or just in general.
EXAMPLE
Let's take some of the phrases that we might throw around thinking everybody understands them: “That was a real bitter pill to swallow.” You’re not talking about taking a literal pill here; rather, people often use this expression to mean that it was very difficult to get a particular piece of news.EXAMPLE
This type of misunderstanding related to internal filters can also happen outside of using idioms. A very commonly misunderstood phrase is “as soon as possible.” People use it all the time, usually abbreviated as “ASAP.”If you don't know the meaning, and you simply act on what you think the intention is, there could be a misunderstanding, or ineffective communication. The way you're internally filtering that expression can get in the way, leading to a conflict.
This is why in the instance of a phrase like “ASAP,” it could be good to check. In an earlier lesson, we talked about using a confirmation message to make sure your interpretation was correct.
EXAMPLE
If someone tells you to do something ASAP, you could reply, “What did you mean by that? Is it OK if I get it to you by Wednesday, or do you need it by the end of today?”Asking questions in order to clarify that the understanding is correct is very helpful whether you’re the sender or the receiver of the message.
If we think there could be a misunderstanding in a message we want to send, it might be good to rethink how we code and send this message.
EXAMPLE
At work, you have to write a report that you’re dreading because it has to be sent to a variety of people in different areas and departments of the organization. This report is about some changes that will affect the whole company and includes some announcements about decisions. You know this report is going to raise a lot of questions, so you’re hesitant to write it even though you know you have to send it soon.That's the other thing that can get in the way: people may think you have a certain attitude about something. They may be internally feeling a little out of sorts because they get your message, and it hits them wrong.
Source: Adapted from Sophia tutorial by Marlene Johnson.