The pre-conflict stage of conflict is the phase in which a problem between parties begins to manifest itself without the parties’ knowledge. Let’s study some examples of what this might look like in context.
EXAMPLE
You enjoy your job; you love the work you do. However, you know there are going to be some changes. The company has hired a new divisional VP, which has led to a couple of management changes in your division. You have met the new managers, and things seem fine at the moment. This could be the pre-conflict stage because issues could be brewing, but you are not aware of them.EXAMPLE
Your neighbors recently moved away. A new family has moved into the house, and you notice that it’s a large family. They have a lot of visitors. Still, they’re really nice people, and your kids get along with their kids. While you are a little surprised by all the visitors, things seem fine at this point.EXAMPLE
Your spouse comes home and says that they have been given extra assignments at work that are going to require travel. Your spouse begins traveling quite a bit, and you start feeling tired a lot. At this early stage, you haven’t really made the connection between your spouse’s increased duties and your exhaustion.Source: Adapted from Sophia tutorial by Marlene Johnson.